The next guy I date:

Should familiarize himself with the term "taken in hand." He also should be able to openly discuss it with me and understand what I mean it to be.

Other essential reads from takeninhand.com:

• What is Taken in Hand?
  
• Could this kind of relationship be for you?
  
• Give me intensity or give me death!
  
• I am a strong woman but I want to be taken in hand. Is this normal?
• The submissive alpha female
  (Scroll down for some great scenarios.)
• Who says you have to be submissive?
  
• I don't want to be a servant or slave
• Do you have a commanding presence?
  
• Is your new man dominant, domineering, or a dithering wimp?

(Ever since I watched the movie Secretary [with James Spader and Maggie Gyllenhaal; click right photo] when it was released a few years ago, I've become fascinated with this subject. But it was only today that I found out there was name for this kind of relationship.)

What is a LushMommy?

It is a woman who happens to be a mother, and wants to keep the same identity she had before she had a child. She is entitled to develop her identity further, within and beyond her state of motherhood. She is entitled to have fun and freedom, whether or not she is married, commited or single.

She will always remember she is a mother, but she is still a woman, and sometimes she likes to get her groove on.

Also visit: Mothers for Social Drinking: Statement of Belief